I actually have been to the Honor Code office. I intervened in what might have become a sexual assault in my apartment. The aggressor was my roommate, a BYU athlete, and a girl in the next building over. At the time of the incident, she was technically across the "chastity line" in the apartment. There was a physical altercation between me and the roommate (which I lost, badly - 135 lb. CS major vs. 225 lb. athlete), she got away, and later on he made a death threat. I went to University Police, and was later called into the HC office.
My experience was that they are not the lynch mob that media and malcontents make them out to be. They asked about the full details of what happened, to be sure. Nothing happened to the potential victim. At all. The HC office apparently had received other complaints about the athlete, who was a minority. Until that point, they had just been sitting on them. At the time, that pissed me off, because my thinking was that if they had immediately booted him, I wouldn't have had such a crappy living situation that year. But now that I'm older and wiser, it makes sense. They didn't act unless and until there was a bad or dangerous pattern that needed to be corrected. I would assume that is fairly consistent in how they handle these things. What I was told about what would happen was similar to what we always heard out of Bronco: specific expectations would be set, and if they were not met, there would be consequences.
I don't know what happened to my roommate. I graduated and moved out of state. I've heard he served a mission, and if so, I'm happy he turned things around. That's the point of discipline, though, right? To help people turn things around? To help people see the error of their ways with milder consequences than they would face if there were no safety net in place?
I don't know specifics about this case, especially about the particulars about how the HC office got their information and got involved. I trust that if there's a problem in that process, Pres. Worthen will get it straightened out. I also hope her attacker gets the justice he deserves for such an awful crime. At the same time, the feeling I get from the victim is that she truly doesn't believe she did anything wrong. I would never blame her for her attacker using his agency to do something terrible. But I would blame her for breaking her word about the Honor Code she signed. At the risk of being accused of promoting rape culture, I would say her mistakes put her in a bad situation, and her attacker took it from there. She is accountable for her mistakes. The attacker is accountable for his. Giving her amnesty from her mistakes might make BYU seem more caring, but ultimately it fails to help her learn from the mistakes she is accountable for. I suspect that the process has only come to the point it did for her because the very suggestion that she did anything wrong got her angry and defensive. In the Church and at BYU, it seems like if you come forward about something and are repentant about it, the consequences are much better for you, because you've learned from your mistake. If not, the consequences are worse, because you obviously haven't learned anything.